One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and be understood. Friends are priceless gems especially if you find a true friend who is always there for you during the sad, good and happy times of your life. If you find them, treasure them.
Friends are life. Without friends, life would be boring. They brighten our days and sometimes they remind us of our value in their lives. During friendship days, we may do or act in a manner not in favour with our friends. Some may take it to heart and end up hurt. Others may shut your mouth and others may get physical.
All these are forms of reacting. All you need to do is study and understand your friends, create conversations, ask them if they have ever been wronged and how they reacted to the situation. Based on their stories, you will know how to handle each circumstance with them. We are human beings and often we wrong and get wronged.
Are you the confrontational or the passive type?
Confrontational is when you face the person and deal with the conflict there and then. You got no time to keep the anger. Some fight, some spit on the face of the person, some calmly talk and others shout. It can be in different forms depending on your friend’s personality.
For the passive type, they accept what happens to them or what others do, without resistance. Being passive kind of makes people get used to you in a bad way. You can’t do anything to them, you get broken inside, your confidence and self-esteem get at stake. I don’t discourage passiveness cause in its form of silence it can create an alarm that something is wrong. If you’re keen you will notice the disconnect between you and your friend.
That brings us to the point I earlier mentioned, learn your friends, hang out more, mess up, get corrected and always enter into friendship expecting the worst. That way you will grow and value your friendship.
Growing up with friends is interesting until they start changing their behaviours. That is when you’ll notice a big difference. Change is good. When our friends get married or are in a serious relationship leading to marriage they tend to change to adapt their new lifestyles. When they do so, we often feel left out. That is common, we only need to get prepared for the change, accept it and move on.
Often enough we get into trouble with our friends for going overboard with our behaviours. But when it gets personal – speak up if you feel your colleague has said anything that puts you in a bad light and gives you sleepless nights.
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